This past week I officially stopped nursing our baby girl. It wasn’t very much a premeditated thing, so much as it just felt like the right time.
And there is no magic formula to know when is the perfect time. It’s whatever is right for you and your LO. That will be your perfect time.
My goal had been to make it a year, and we did with flying colors. And while I’m very comfortable with the decision to stop now, there is a part of me that’s a little sad. One of those bittersweet mommy moments I guess. So in an effort to minimize my sad moments, I’ve decided to focus on the positive. Thinking about what I get to embrace again in this life after breastfeeding, and why it’s okay to smile about it.
- I get to wear a normal bra again!
- Remember how much you missed cold medicine while breastfeeding?! You don’t have to worry about it anymore!
- While leaking and engorgement may happen while you’re starting to wean, that’s it! You’re your body figures out you’re done…you don’t have to worry about that ever again! Well, until next time at least…
- You will no longer feel like an all you can eat buffet! 😉
- You can finally stop hiding behind the idea that breastfeeding will get rid of all the baby weight. It’s not happening, Allie. Time to accept it and move on.
- You can kiss all of your pumping stuff goodbye!! Hallelujah!!!
- You no longer have to worry about counting your cups of coffee, or worry about how late in the day you can have one!
- You can stop asking yourself, “Oh that’s really cute, but can I nurse in that?”
- Words you can eliminate from your vocabulary: clogged ducts, mastitis, milk supply.
- And although the bond shared between you and your LO while nursing is so precious, you will still have that bond. It’s just growing and changing right along with them. And that is something that should be celebrated!
It has been a crazy journey nursing my LO, and I am so grateful we were able to do it for so long. And although I’m laughing a little at my list, I need to focus on the positive, or I become one big sopping mess of a mama thinking about it. The truth is, it’s hard to let this chapter close. But for everything, there is a season. And it’s okay to be sad, but also to remember that this is a good thing. This means my LO is healthy and growing, and I have done a good job as mom.
And you’ve done a good job too mom. This is hard, but this is good. Smile on the milk drunk memories, and embrace the non-nursing tops. Take a minute to cry and cherish, but then smile, because this is what’s supposed to happen.