If we’re being completely honest here, I have never been someone who has felt very comfortable in my own skin. I have always been too tall, too pale, too “insert some silly description here”. Usually, these thoughts were completely unfounded, but they got in my head all the same. Then something happened. I became a mom, and I realized that my little girl was going to be looking to me to see how to develop her own self-esteem. I would be the one responsible for teaching her how to love herself.
I had to ask myself, how good of a job I was doing?
Would she see a mom who loves herself as she as she is, or would she see a mom who is constantly picking herself apart? Would she believe me when I tell her she is fearfully and wonderfully made if she’s seeing me tear myself down over silly insecurities?
As much as I would like to think I can keep any negative feelings about myself to myself, I have come to learn that my daughter is a little sponge who is always watching. When I’m looking in the mirror getting ready in the mornings, she’s there watching. When I’m getting dressed, she’s there watching. Throughout the whole day, she’s there watching. Her little eyes are constantly looking to me to see how she should treat herself.
When this finally dawned on me I realized I needed to take a long hard look in the mirror. And not to fix my makeup, but to really think about how I am treating myself. Really evaluate how I am loving myself.
I wish I could tell you that since I realized this I have completely stopped any and all negative thoughts about my self-image, and am completely at peace with my body! But I’m not perfect. A lot of days are definitely “fake it till you make it” days. But I can say that I am a work in progress, who has made some serious headway in this self-love department.
Those little eyes are always watching. And I want them to see that the beauty is found in what makes us different. I want her to see that exemplified in her mother. And when those negative thoughts do creep in, I want her to see her mom champion them, so that she will know she doesn’t have to give into them either. She will be able to see and remember that she is beautiful exactly how she is. Just like her mother taught her.
Happy Monday everybody,
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